My Dad,
and
My Relationship with Him
My dad grew up in Alpena Michigan, on French Rd, coming from a family of 10. The Siblings were, Aunt Ellonor, Aunt Bonnie, Aunt Deloris, Aunt Gale, and Aunt Shirley. His brothers were Uncle Butch, Uncle Glen, Uncle Ernie, Uncle Ervin, and of course Dad, Garry Kitter Garry. Grandma and Grandpa Kitter both passed before I really had a chance to know and learn about them. Dad was a source of knowledge for Grandma and Grandpa. If you listened to his stories, you could get bits and pieces of informationn, Aunt Shirley if you want to know you could ask. While he lived in Alpena, boy he could swim, and swim far. he also fished, liked fishing for Pike in the Thunderbay River behind the fairgrounds. Two of his favorite fishing holes was between the two dams on Long Rapids Road, that is where Uncle Butch and Dad would go fishing when we came up to visit most of the time. We would also go out South of town to Squaw Bay. Chumming around with Roger Anderson. Seeing how much trouble they cannot get into.They still are best friends. Even when he was young he had a knack for mechanics. I know of only one accident, he was driving South on US 23, somehow he was in Squaw Bay car filled with water. Roger became Chief of Police for the City of Alpena. Dad became, third shift Job Setter at Plant 2 for Saginaw Steering Gear.
My dad rode into town, on his Harley Davison motorcycle, stopping to see his brother Uncle Ervin, who was working for GM at a local foundry. He was on his way to California. On this stop is where he met my mom. They got married and lived in Saginaw on Granger for a while working for numerous employers to include Consumers Auto Parts. His brother would get him into Saginaw Steering Gear across the Saginaw River from his brother. Uncle Erv’s foudry pourded the housings for the power steering pumps, then they were sent across the river to dads’ plant, where hoses and other parts are put on. Dad was Job setter, keeping the machines running and the lines going.
As I was saying for a while they lived on Granger, in Saginaw, later moved to Victor Dr in Shields. At the time the street was a Dead end, wewere the second house from the end on the right. There is where my dreams began. To be able to walk down to the end of the street with the rest of the neighbohood kids to catch the bus. They had to walk to the end of the street every day to catch the bus and get dropped off. There was a big field behind the house, it was Verbotten(forbidden) to play in said field, I did any ways got yelled when coming back all muddy. The field is now where the Swan Valley Highschool is now located. If we lived there now, we could probably put lawn chairs on the garage roof and watch Friday night Football from our yard. The dreams of walking to the end of the street were dashed when we moved to Hemlock. I have some vague memories of him tinkering on motors at our residence on Victor Drive. Nothing specific stands out
The residence in Hemlock is where all my memories lie. The big dream for me was being picked up by the bus, being picked upand dropped off at the end of the driveway. Later, when in highschool, we had to walk down to the corner to catch the bus. That was fine by me allowing me to unclutter my head before school. From helping my dad pump the brakes on the car or truck while working on the brakelines, riding on the back of the garden tractor. To add weight so he could clear the neighbor’s driveway of snow, helping every now and then when he was pulling motors from a neighbor’s vehicle.
The three big projects that I really remember, one was the 1950 Ford pick-up. My dad was the mechanic for the project. He hooked up a chevy motor to a ford transmission, one of a few hick ups along the way. My Uncle Ernie was the body man. He did all, bodywork including Bondo, fiberglass, and painting. In the end, that baby was sharp, Firengine Red and Black running boards. he worked third shift; we would be on the bus you could see him coming from a mile away, sure enough it was dad. Those two burned some midnight oil on that project, I am sure of it.
The boat, the barn was not in existence yet. The garage, where all his projects took place. I am not quite sure where he got the boat, but this thing called a boat needed refinishing. All I know is that sometime while refinishing,of course garage was closed, it was mid spring, he was painting, thank goodness he was inside the boat, the garage filled up with fumes, the furnace kicked on, flames traveling alongside the boat, and the main door blewout, looking like someone had tried backing a car out without opening the door. That is what it looked like to me when I came home from class later in the evening. Can not remember if he was kept overnight for observation or not. I just rember coming home with the garage door bowed out, wondering what the heck had happened, wondering where mom and dad were. Imagine my surprise when Gary Wade shows up from the Richland Twp Fire Department. what in heck are you doing here, “Doing a report” for what? “For the gargage door” I didn’t know there was a fire. “Oh no, there was more of an explosion” Oh ok I see now. He was alright, no worse for wear. Boat was sold all was well.
The 63 Ford unibody. Not really a whole lot that needed to be done on it. I think that he did go through the motor and did a rebuild. Garry Kitter when doing something you do it right the first time. he would have gone theough the motor. The paint job was classy. I do remember him having some sort of leak, and he was having problems chasing it down. He did finally find out where the leak was coming from, and it was fixed. He went to a few shows with it as well.
For four years I was in Active Duty Army, then Reserve and Guard, so I was away a lot, also deployed for Desert Shiel/Storm, he was miffed because I could not tell him where I was going. I told him to watch the News, if you want to know where I am going. I don’t think he did. It was classified and I could not tell him. I missed a year’s worth of course work, no regrets do it again in a heartbeat.
Deer hunting was where the connection was made. When I turned 14, I was deer hunting around the house at my neighbors’ property, and with my cousins out in Marion Springs, dad would go to Alpena to Deer hunt. Mom was hitting more deer with the car than I was seeing in the woods. Very frustrating. Occasionally dad would take me up to Deer camp for the weekend and see some deer in the woods. One year I went up over the weekend, to hunt. I was hunting the powerline at camp. Saw nothing my first day hunting, dad offers to switch spots. I agree dad hunts the powerline and shoots a nice buck off the powerline. That weekend I saw nothing but doe. Another year before the addition was out on the camp, space was at a premium, one night dad put a large oak log in the stove, I think everyone was sweating their butts off that night, windows wide open way too frickin hot. There is hope. 2007 was the year I shot my first deer. it was the same part of the same day that dad shot his deer as well 2010 I shot a ten pointer out of the swamp, it ran off, no blood, dad and Roger found it laying in dads’ field that he hunts the next morning.
2011, I was a lucky Michigan Hunter, for about 18 years of applying for an either-or Elk tag. 18 chances,I finally won the lottery. It was an eight-day hunt, divided into two four-day hunts. I wanted dad and Roger Anderson with me. They came up for the first half of the hunt and saw nothing, considerd myself lucky, because I was wondering to myself how in the heck are we going to haul this animal if I shot one. Was definitely not in a half ton pickup truck. We saw nothing, made a note to self to remind dad to bring his trailer up for the second half of the hunt.
For the second half of the hunt, dad brought the trailor up, with a winch on it. On opening day, of the second half, we saw nothing, some elk with headgear was spotted a mile or so up the road from the Brilely well sites, hunting there in the morning. where we were hunting was an access road to a powerline and an isolated wellsite. Plan was was dad and Roger watch the powerline, we would be hunting the wellsite. We got a call that there were cows and calfs on the powerline, so the decision was made to go check it out. Two cows, two calfs. Iwas asked if I wanted a cow, no we are still hunting bulls, tomorrow if my tag is not filled it will be anything goes. watched them, asked if they knew of any groups hunting cows. Another one of my wishes came true, seeing some elk in the wild, besides the one I killed. We moved dad and Roger stayed put on the powerline. It was not even fifteen minutes, get a call from Roger, cell service is spotty , Roger thought I hung up on him, just ran out of bars. Call back, bull on the powerline. We turned around at the nearest spot on the two track, going what seemed like fifty miles an hour down two track, praying no one was coming from the opposite direction. Disconnected because of lousy phone service again in that area. When we pulled in, up the road there was a fork in the road, he was off to the left. Chambered a round, missed, chambered another round missed, moved to sitting suported and used my sling how it was meant to be used, zoned everything out that was going on around me, third shot hit its mark six inches behind the right shoulder, he walked in the woods, couple minutes later a loud crash could be heard.
After he was cleaned out, pictures taken and loaded on the trailer, we had to find ice and lots of it. It was 58° degrees out no matter where we get it processed we had to cool him down. The ice supply guy was leaving as we wre pulling in. We put 22, 22-pound bags of ice. Dad and Roger took the elk to where we processed our deer at the time, I closed out the Motel room, and headed to Alpena. Mom and dad picked the meat up when it was done,coolers galore, dad and mom picked my shoulder mount up from Oscoda and it was taken to Deer Camp, then took it and the skull to Alpena. Shoulder mount went to the camp where it still is today, the skull went to the DNR Field Office in Alpena, located out by the Alpena Airport off of M-32. The Elk hunt worked out how I wanted it to, my dad and his friend Roger Anderson played a vital role in the hunt. They stayed on the powerline where the two cows and calfs were,little while later the bull comes out. They were active participants, just what I wanted
Fifty-nine years of being with him here is what I picked up.
Use something, or borrow, put it back where it belongs, or return it to the rightful owner.
If you did something wrong own up to it. If it was wrong, learn from it and drive on. Try not to do it again.
Make a mess clean up after yourself, don’t leavethe mess for the next person to clean up after you
Be on time, a lot of times you’re the one saving the day for the party, because everyone else was tied up in traffic, or they are running late
Everybody has the same toolbox, but each person’s tooolbox contains different tools. I learned this lesson in Highschool, taking auto shop. tearing apart a four-barrel carburator. I could take it apart but could not remember how the stupid thing went back together. That was when I realized that I was not a mechanic. Almost nine years later in college is where I found my purpose. It would be writing.
Don’t throw away all that hard work This is one of my lessons, was the last day of Highschool, I almost did not graduate. here I was always struggling with all my classwork. spending eight hours on homework every night. No matter how hard I tried the outcome was not reflecting the effort that was being applied for sure.being told by the teachers, i am not applying myself. Becase of this stupid act I almost threw away all my hard work that I did for 12 years.
Start a project, see it through to the end
Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.
When hunting, there is more of Michigan, than there is animal you are shooting at
There are going to be things that you do not like to do, but sometimes they have to be done anyways. Just do it and get it over with.
Put spare change in some sort of container, after a while it adds up.
The many times helping him with brakes, sitting in the vehicle pumping and holding the brakes, while he was adding brake fluid, stuff like that.There were numerous other projects and family trips. There were also fishing trips. Camping trips was some of the time with Uncle Al and Aunt Ellonor, and Uncle Butch and Aunt Deloris. In the end, I want to think that the relationship I had with my dad was good. The Big trip to Alaska. His favorite answer to me was I do not know, whenever I asked him a question. I hope that I was a good son, I tried. In the end all that we can do is try. With dad you never knew how or what he thought. He did not ever let me know. He was always telling me he did not want to come to deer camp, because he did not want to sit and watch all the other members do the work, I would tell him he earned it. He did not go. He was always saying how he wanted to go to Alpena, let me know when, I will get the time off and we will drive up there. He did not go. He would help me with the leaves and pine needles. He was driving the snapper lawn mower with the trailer, I would pick up the needles and leaves, put them in said trailer and walk down to the ditch. He would back the trailer up. I would empty the trailer and meet him up by the house where we are working. I hated driving that thing, because it was way too small for me, with my knees being shoved into my chin. It didn’t bother me to walk.I often wondered where I stood, but all in all, I think I had a better relationship than I thought I did.